The first letter is the most important and you must ensure that it will
be special. There is no second chance to make a first impression.
Start the letter with "Hello" or "Hi". Addressing
with the word "Dear" has an intimate nuance in Russian so you'd
better keep it for the time when you know each other well. Introduce yourself
and tell her where you found her address.
The worst beginning for your letter is "I
was taken by your beautiful picture", or "I
find you very beautiful and I am hoping that your inner beauty is as strong as
your outer."
First thing, women want to be appreciated for their personal qualities,
not appearance. Second, in Russia
the word "beautiful" means something different than in the western
world, it is very discriminative. Here every good looking woman is called
"beautiful". In Russia
you are beautiful only if you are a beauty queen or a photo model. If you are
not - you are only attractive.
When a woman receives a letter with a "You are so beautiful"
phrase, she thinks you are not writing to her as a person, you just liked the
picture of her that shows her in the way she does not look every day
(especially when she is up in the morning), and that you actually are mistaken
about her appearance because otherwise you would not call her
"beautiful" - she knows she is just "attractive". You mean
to make her feel better, but in reality you make her feel worse about herself -
you are looking for somebody who is beautiful, and she thinks she is not.
You can say "I liked your photo" but even this can turn the
woman off. They don't want to feel like items on display. They want to be
appreciated as human beings, for what they are and not for what they look like.
(I wonder how would you feel if somebody said to you "You car looks
very nice; I hope you are as nice a person as what your car looks like"...
Got the feeling?)
Your letter must be interesting to read. Good humor is the best way to
make reading fun but don't be a clown. Never make jokes about the girl's
appearance, her English, etc. Better to laugh at yourself than to laugh at her.
The necessary details to mention: your age, weight, height; marital
status, children, education, occupation, religion, smoking, drinking (very
important!), personality, interests, hobbies and the things you love, as well
as the place where you live. Don't make it a list; the letter must be alive and
express your heart and soul rather than to be "correct". It must be
rather a story than a questionnaire.
The minimum length of the letter is 1-2 pages. You are not going to get
many responses if your letter consists of only 3-5 sentences.